Some people will find this infographic extremely handy. I know that when I was single, I could have used some play-by-play illustrated instructions on how to deal with the opposite sex. It was a minefield out there, Folks, and I’m sure it still is. So, this guide on how to be more attractive using body language should clear everything up for you guys. Or not. But I digress…
Why Body Language is Important
This tells us that only 7% of what we say account for the overall impact of our communication, while 55% of it is all body language. As for the other 38%, I’m betting it’s all non-verbal too – just in the form of environment, etc. Not too sure, but that’s what I’m guessing.
This little section talks about eye contact, and eye expression. If you hold eye contact for 4.5 seconds, there is supposedly no connection, while 8.2 seconds indicates that there is romantic connection. Eyes that crinkle at the edges when somebody smiles makes people think that the smile is more genuine. Also, if you raise your eyebrows at someone in the US, you could be flirting, but in Japan you’re insulting them. When using your eyes to gaze at someone, don’t tilt your head. You’re more attractive if you look at them head-on. Also, if you’re trolling for a sugar daddy (wha?), he’s not likely to stare at you for the required 8.2 seconds. He’s too rich to do that. In all cases, look someone in the eye a lot, because that strengthens the connection.
If you only smile for .25 seconds, your smile is perceived as fake (a smirk, even). If you smile for more than 1 second, your smile is still perceived as fake. A .5 second smile is perceived as trustworthy and real, and therefore more attractive. That being said, they probably don’t mean for you to mentally count the timing of your smile. That would probably come off as fake, too.
If you keep your palms up, you give off an air of openness and vulnerability, which can be good, but really bad if your potential suitor is super aggressive. As for your trunk and your body position, if you lean forward, you prompt people to talk to you more than when you lean to the side. If you cross your legs toward the person you’re talking to, it shows you’re interested, especially if you manage to touch them. If you engage in any type of closed posture, which includes crossing your arms or any position that shields your throat, stomach, or bit, you show that you’re uncomfortable, and that you may fear an attack of some sort (joke, kind of). Open posture shows that you’re comfortable, which makes the other person comfortable.
Body Space and Volume
This is a handy guide that tells you how close to get and how loud to talk in a number of situations. For instance, at a social gathering or business function, stand about 5 feet away and use a soft voice indoors, loud voice outdoors.
And Now, for the Gents
This section is dedicated to the men. It says that you should wear your ring, because women like men who are already attached. That may be true, but ew. If you’re married, you shouldn’t be attempting to be more attractive to the opposite sex, and if you’re single, you shouldn’t chase after married people. But that’s just our opinion. For guys to appear more confident and dominant, he should sit non-symmetrically, as in propping a leg up or putting a hand in a pocket, and he should take up as much space as possible without looking unnatural. Also, he should sit down first.
Additionally, men should pay close attention to their body language, because women are ten time better at picking up on nonverbal clues than men. So they are watching, guys . Also, the infographic suggests you should go for a “happy go lukcy” vibe (they actually mention Uncle Jesse from Full House – The Stamos) because you want that bad boy with a heart of gold kind of thing working for you.
For the Ladies
This section is much smaller, presumably because women need much less instruction when it comes to body language. If you want to know if a guy is attracted to you, shift position. If he shifts with you, he’s attracted to you. It’s that easy.
There is a lot going on, and there are a lot of different photos, graphics, and typefaces going on. Overall it’s easy to read, and the colors are OK, except for those random cement-gray boxes.
I imagine this is all fairly accurate, and that, taken with a grain of salt, can help you interact with the opposite sex more successfully.
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- 10 Dating Turn-Offs (makethelist.net)